I personally started with Visual Basic 6.0 before upgrading to VB.NET. VB, in my opinion, is the easiest to learn.

C# is a little harder, but not too bad. C++ is probably the hardest of the 3 that I have experience with.
Whichever you choose you will need to download Visual Studio. You can download the free Community Edition from Microsoft.

I would suggest BASIC as a the first language for any beginner, because it has the most "English-like" syntax.  Access and Visual Studio both use a version of BASIC, but they are very complicated software for beginners to use and maintain.  So I would suggest a much simpler tool that uses BASIC, such as Microsoft Small Basic.  If you remember Windows 3 and XP, you may remember the QBasic tool that came with them.  This is the descendant of that:

     https://smallbasic-publicwebsite.azurewebsites.net/

This site has plenty of PDF tutorials for you to study and practice with:     https://smallbasic-publicwebsite.azurewebsites.net/tutorials

You can download the tool, or write code directly online:     https://smallbasic-publicwebsite-code.azurewebsites.net/

The picture below is a sample piece of code I did.  It creates 50 random words, shown in a 5-by-10 layout, with each word composed of random consonants in the 1st, 3rd, and 5th letter, and random vowels in the 2nd and 4th letter.  This is the essence of programming: a deceptively brief piece of code is able to perform tasks that may be very time-consuming to do manually.  This task is an actual homework assignment that I got in my 10th grade computer class in the early 1980s (the dawn of today's computer age).

Nowadays, elementary schools teach coding fairly early.  Here is a kind of coding via "block-building" that kids may learn today:  https://scratch.mit.edu/projects/editor/?tutorial=getStarted .  If you didn't have computer classes in your early school years, you may take a look.  If it is too child-like for you, you may go straight to "text-based coding."  That's why I suggest you learn the most English-like coding language first.  Most other languages may look like alien language to you at this point.